Dear Future Daughter-In-Law

I may not know who you are right now but I already adore you and am fervently praying for you.
My husband and I are working diligently to raise men of God and it is our deepest desire that you would be a woman of faith; a woman who understands the importance of having God at the center of her marriage, a woman who is kind, compassionate, patient, gentle and respectful, a woman who will one day give us grandchildren and raise them to pursue a relationship with Jesus.
To us, everything else pales in comparison.
The expectation to be the perfect homemaker? Not my expectation of you. If you haven’t learned how to cook (or just don’t like to cook) don’t worry, my son will know a trick or two. My mother-in-law showed me how to prepare a few dishes and I will gladly do the same for you. Maintaining a spotless house? Impossible. But if you happen to know how to accomplish that, then teach me.
All that I ask is that you choose to love my son each and every day. After all, that’s what marriage is, a choice to love and when we continuously make that choice, oh how tremendous marriage is. Tough times will still come though. It is my prayer that you will fight alongside each other, that you will balance each other, that you will be each others strength when the other is weak, that you will be constant despite the seasons of struggle, that you will honor, support, respect and love each other.
Never hesitate to call me if you’re feeling overwhelmed, even if it involves me son. I’ve known him his entire life so I just may be able to help. I will not judge you. I will try my best to understand. I’m part of your team now. I will always be rooting for you.
I love you, not just because my son love you but because you love my son too.
I know we have some time before we meet but I will continue to pray for you. And know that when we do meet, those prayers will continue.

You’re future mother-in-law


  1. Wow, you’re absolutely mother in law goals! It’s so interesting to read about this perspective because it’s not commonly heard, but definitely needs to be!

  2. This is so lovely!! Apart from being a fantastic reflection exercises, letters like these will be so great when your sons do get married. What a beautiful way to welcome your future daughter-in-law into the family!

  3. This can only be the words spoken by a mom or someone who cares deeply. As someone of faith I understand the need and the passion to submit all to our God.

  4. Beautifully written. I hope that one day your son will look back on these words and be glad you wrote them.

  5. This is beautiful, I hope one day my son finds someone who will be able feel the same way. I don’t have a great relationship with my mother in law and I don’t want that with my daughter in law.

  6. This is very sweet. I have a really nice Mother-in-Law. Though I don’t know her as well as I could because we’re on opposite sides of the country which is really unfortunate.

  7. This is so lovely! You would be a great mother in law. It is so important to have a good relationship with your husband’s mom. I’m so grateful I have a great one, and you sure look like will be an amazing one!

  8. You sound like the kind of mother-n-law that I hope my daughters have! My mother was this type of mother-n-law, as I was told from my brothers wife. She adored her life a mother. I had hoped that I would have had one the same, but I didn’t luck out.

  9. I love praying and loving my future daughter in law already. Seeing how many people are at odds with their in laws, we are going to need all the help we can get.

  10. What a lovely message for your future daughter-in-law. There’s nothing sweeter than accepting someone for who they are. And you’re right, there will always be issues in a marriage. It’s all about how you handle them.

  11. Oh my goodness this is SO sweet. I really need to write something like this since I have two boys. I always try to make sure they have good role models, and see how to treat women the right way.

  12. As a mom with 4 boys I totally feel the same way. I want to raise my boys to be good men, respectful men who will find a woman to treat like an equal, with love and respect.

  13. This was so sweet! I am just now starting to have a good relationship with my MIL. My husband barely had one with her for years, and it has been rough but we are making it work. I want to be close with both of my kids’ future significant others.

  14. This is so beautiful and I actually teared up while reading it. Your son are very blessed to have a mother like you and your future daughter in laws will to.

  15. I think all we can hope for in our future in-law is that she/he makes our child happy and brings out the best in them. I would also hope that family is important to them and they embrace both sides as one.

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