Don’t Wash Your Dishes

If you know me then you know that even if the rest of the house is a mess, my kitchen and my bathroom have to be clean before I go to bed.
BUT I didn’t wash my dishes last night.

Before I continue I think that’s important to note that I have OCD – obsessive CLEANING disorder. I am constantly cleaning something, rearranging something, organizing something – it’s almost as if I cannot stop moving. From a very early age, cleanliness was ingrained in me. I’ve come to the realization that I find comfort in it AND I’ve also come to the realization that my stress levels often spike when things aren’t clean.

Almost every weeknight around 7 o’clock you will find me in the kitchen meal prepping, washing dishes, scrubbing the counters and stove or sweeping the floor. I have to have a clean home. Or in the very least I have to have a clean kitchen (and bathroom). So when I say, I didn’t do my dishes last night, please know that this is a big deal for me.

I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to devote my days to being with my children until it’s time for Kindergarten. An average day includes morning routines, getting my oldest ready for school then rolling on the floor with my youngest, building block towers he will only knock down, helping him put puzzles together, reading books, watching my his favorite movie or show for the millionth time, running errands, going to appointments, attending playgroups and (when weather permits) exploring the great outdoors. Then it’s time for helping with homework, checking off a book from the school’s weekly reading list, extracurriculars, dinner then bedtime routines. Hopefully with enough time for a tv show or quiet time with my husband (although I prefer the latter).

Having a clean home is crucial to my days running as smooth as possible.
So, evenings are for cleaning.

BUT I didn’t wash my dishes last night.

Instead, they sat in the sink while I snuggled on the sofa with my husband and children as we watched a movie. We curled under cozy blankets. We ate snacks. We laughed. We even let them stay up past their bedtime.


If you’re like me, I’d like to offer you this perspective…
Yes, it’s great to have a clean home. But what’s greater is the time spent with your family. Yes, we should wash our dishes (and clean our homes) but we should also make these moments a priority. Even if that means leaving that last thing on your list unchecked to read one more book, to snuggle for five more minutes, to sip wine slowly with your spouse while you talk and fill your love tanks.


Tonight, don’t wash your dishes.


  1. I agree, sometimes the dishes just have to wait until morning! I left a few dishes in the sink last night too, haha. Will probably go do them in a few minutes.

  2. I’ve been trying to calm my OCD and leave those dishes too… I’m crazy about a clean kitchen at night but some times lately I just let it be and go hang with my family xoox

  3. I can totally relate to this. With two little ones, I have found that everything comes down to choices and I am trying to make more choices that make me happy. I know everything will eventually get done and I repeat that to myself.

  4. Aww, I love this! There is absolutely nothing more important than spending time with family, especially when young children are involved. Thank you!!!

  5. Beautiful. You’re setting ministry where it counts–in the lives of people. I don’t have OCD–trust me, I don’t have OCD at all and my cluttered house displays it well–but busyness often becomes my “sink of dishes”. It’s a fight to simply “be.” Oh, but when God leads… When we trust and rest in Him. Mmmm… Beautiful. Visiting via Grace Girls. 😉 So glad we’re neighbors.

  6. Couldn’t agree with you more. The dishes will always be there, but kids will grow up and those memories with them are more important to have.

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